Use these discussion questions to guide your next meeting.
ABOUT THE BOOK
In her most revealing and powerful memoir yet, Glennon Doyle, the activist, speaker, bestselling author, and “patron saint of female empowerment” (People) explores the joy and peace we discover when we stop striving to meet others’ expectations and start trusting the voice deep within us.
There is a voice of longing inside each woman. We strive so mightily to be good: good partners, daughters, mothers, employees, and friends. We hope all this striving will make us feel alive. Instead, it leaves us feeling weary, stuck, overwhelmed, and underwhelmed. We look at our lives and wonder: Wasn’t it all supposed to be more beautiful than this? We quickly silence that question, telling ourselves to be grateful, hiding our discontent—even from ourselves.
Untamed is both an intimate memoir and a galvanizing wake-up call. It is the story of how one woman learned that a responsible mother is not one who slowly dies for her children, but one who shows them how to fully live. It is the story of navigating divorce, forming a new blended family, and discovering that the brokenness or wholeness of a family depends not on its structure but on each member’s ability to bring her full self to the table. And it is the story of how each of us can begin to trust ourselves enough to set boundaries, make peace with our bodies, honor our anger and heartbreak, and unleash our truest, wildest instincts so that we become women who can finally look at ourselves and say: There She Is.
Untamed shows us how to be brave. As Glennon insists: The braver we are, the luckier we get.
THE DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Glennon opens Untamed with the story of Tabitha, a caged cheetah she encounters on a family trip to a safari park. Glennon watches Tabitha stalk the periphery of the field where she’s kept captive and imagines Tabitha’s inner doubts, and her quick dismissal of those internal questions. Glennon imagines Tabitha saying to herself, “I should be grateful. I have a good enough life.” What does the phrase “good enough life” mean to you? Do you ever find yourself silencing your own inner voice? How does Tabitha symbolize Glennon’s desire and journey to become “untamed”?
When Abby tells Glennon's parents about her wish to marry their daughter, Glennon's mother says, “I have not seen my daughter this alive since she was ten years old.” This prompts Glennon to ask: “Where did my spark go at ten? How had I lost myself?” She soon recognizes that at age ten, she began to let go of her true self to be the “good girl” society expected her to be. She writes, “I was wild until I was tamed by shame.” How would you describe yourself as a young child? Does a particular age in your childhood stand out as pivotal turning point for you?
After meeting and falling in love with Abby, Glennon acknowledges that creating a life with her was the first original idea she’d had, and the first decision she made as a free woman. It forced her to question her faith, friendships, her work, her sexuality—her entire life. Have you ever asked yourself what you truly want, versus what you might be conditioned to want? Are there things you have denied yourself because they don’t “fit” with society’s expectations? Do you believe it’s possible to have what you really want despite a culture that might tell you otherwise?
“Untamed will liberate women—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It is phenomenal.”—Elizabeth Gilbert, author of City of Girls and Eat Pray Love
“Packed with incredible insight about what it means to be a woman today.”—Reese Witherspoon (Reese’s Book Club x Hello Sunshine Book Pick)
Get involved with Together Rising, the 501(c)(3) nonprofit that Glennon founded in 2012. Together Rising has raised more than $20 million for people in need with a most frequent donation of $25, proving that small gifts can change the world in revolutionary ways. Visit togetherrising.org to learn more, donate, or volunteer.